the point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one of which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust.
a merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development.
but once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distance exists, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky.
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Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.
by Rainer Maria Rilke
when i reread this, i feel it is normal to feel lonely even when you're standing among family, friends or strangers. no one can fill up that void except ourselves. i am allowing myself to feel so but i am also learning to fill it up with something else like getting a new hobby, read, zikir ... anything to keep myself busy. no point sulking or crying over or about it.
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